[long rant] Who Is To Blame?

Some people believe that if we had no SCIENCE, that the world would be peaceful and perfect. They look at weapons of mass destruction and the damage they can cause. They look at all of the environmental pollution. They see automation costing millions of jobs. That heartless atheists do unprecedented levels of damage to both people and planet, with their Frankenstein mentality that gives no value to human life or any life at all, as they worship their god,  intellectualism.


Some people believe that if we had no SPIRITUALITY, that the world would be peaceful and perfect. All of the billions of people murdered over centuries all in the name of supposedly doing the right things, being at the right vibrational frequency, or whatever other nonsense. That the difference between a cult and a religion is how much real estate is owned. That any form of spirituality will take the people you love away from you and completely ruin your life.


Some people believe that if we had no MONEY, that the world would be peaceful and perfect. That the current debt-based economy was described by the ancients as "usery" and was punishable by death and considered high treason. That the military industrial complex makes more money on the racket of war, than has ever been made in any other business. That if we simply just did not have money, people would not fight each other because there would be no profit incentive for them to be doing so. That monetary economics needs to be replaced with resource-based economics.


Some people believe that if we had no GOVERNMENT, that the world would be peaceful and perfect. That historically, government -- has murdered the most people. That historically, government -- has stolen the most from people. That historically, government -- is a tool of the Devil (or evil, at the very least) to separate us from each other and ourselves using divide and conquer. That government is nothing more than a mind game pulled on suckers by ambitious people who are so emotionally and mentally traumatized, that they have become sick and twisted like Anikan turning into Darth Vader. That all we need is one law: Do no harm (but take no shit) and that beyond this, people should be free to do as they please and go where they please. That government and freedom are in direct opposition to each other.


Some people believe that if we had no INFORMATION, that the world would be peaceful and perfect. That information is a demon that will possess you and change you so much, that you'll cease to exist. That it all started with Eve and that silly apple, so women are also blamed secondarily. That you have to be careful about what sort of information you allow yourself to see, hear and speak because otherwise -- it will turn you into an agent of evil. That only closing your heart and mind to all things of the Earth with your eyes looking skyward, can save you from being the victim of information.


Some people believe that if we had no SEXUALITY, that the world would be peaceful and perfect. That the problem from which all others come from, is all of this "fucking" and "porn" that people are into. That their sex addictions are what cause them to turn against friends, family and God. That crime would be minimal if everyone would just wait until marriage to have sex. That even sexuality-based humor is every bit as dangerous and evil as doing it with everyone like a bunch of rabbits. They believe that if everyone could just keep their virginity as long as possible and repress and suppress any sexual urges using drugs (legal or otherwise), religion, or anything else that they think might do the trick -- that things such as hate, war, crime, etc would be at an all time low and we can then begin to move into a perfect world.


THE LIST GOES ON.
Some of the things listed above are facts, others are psychologically projected misunderstandings. So how do we tell the difference?


SCIENCE, SPIRITUALITY, MONEY, GOVERNMENT, INFORMATION, SEXUALITY, ETC are all TOOLS. A rock or a hammer or fire is neither good nor evil. Anyone who chooses to think they are, merely are invoking their free will right to think so, but: it doesn't make them correct. SCIENCE can turn this world into a paradise or blow it into a zillion pieces. SPIRITUALITY can bring you closer to yourself, to God and others -- or it can destroy you and ruin your life. MONEY, when equity-based, can be a tool for trading with others so all involved exit the deal satisfied and happy. Or, when debt-based, it can be used to promote fear, insecurity, hate and psychopathic behaviors in general -- even among people who otherwise are not psychopaths. GOVERNMENT, is the collective equivalent of a parent. It serves a temporary purpose of managing a playground in which an entire race can eventually grow to maturity and then as individuals, be able to go off on their own and do great wonderful things. When this tool gets hijacked, it can trap a species into perpetual eternal adolescence, which leads to everything we say we hate and everything we say we are against. This is why Mark Twain said, history never repeats -- but it does rhyme. All INFORMATION is a wonderful tool for as long as we're willing to use it as such. You're not in fear of being co-opted by a hammer, yet the idea of viewing certain information terrifies us, doesn't it? We'll do anything to avoid it. Psychological projection. Misplaced blame. Harm and even murder. If someone was trying to murder someone we loved and we killed them in the process, it is defense. If someone already murdered our loved ones, of course in our grieving process and anger we all would want to kill them. Doesn't matter how good of a person we are. How smart we are or anything. I consider myself personally to be a very good person and yet, if someone murdered someone that I love and I was in the same room with them with a gun -- I would shoot them and be equally guilty of murder. Murder is a violation of due process. So why do most murders, murder -- and why would each of us murder a murderer and become the very thing we despise? Though there are many reasons, one of them is fear of information. Fear of being proven wrong. Fear of not being right. All murderers feel justified, no matter which side of the situation they are on. Ask anyone who has ever committed murder. Anyone can visit a penitentiary and interview a murderer, as long as the murderer wants to be interviewed. Speak to two different types. The ones who think its okay to kill people, and the ones who thought it was okay to murder someone who murdered someone they love. If the idea of speaking with them scares you, this is a fear of "information that might prove you wrong", it is not about fear of being in a room with a creepy murderer surrounded by intimidating jail guards. SEXUALITY is merely an aspect of humanity. It does not cause immorality, rape and depravity. Shame and trauma cause that, such as being at the receiving end of emotional, psychological or physical abuse. If we did not live in a society that had such a lack of compassion, the porn business would be obsolete. When we have trauma in regards to our own sexuality, we view everything and everyone as being "perverse". Harmless sexual humor and innuendo are taken to such literal insecure extremes that they are viewed as attacks, or attempts at sexual seduction. Expressions of appreciation, kindness, admiration of beauty and so on are viewed as creepy, disturbing and offensive. The divide between the genders widens. Ladies believe (consciously, or subconsciously) that theres no such thing as friendship loyalty that she can have with a male, and that all males are treacherous. Or at the very least, have no way of truly understanding or respecting her. That males are not capable of sensual appreciation and genuineness. That all they want is pussy, or a trophy toy to brag about. That this is the only type of guy that can exist. So the nice guys are pushed away and she lives her self-created, self-fulfilling prophecy. Guys do the exact same psychological projection bullshit on women as well, and thus also live their self-created, self-fulfilling prophecy. I know as a male, I've been guilty of that sort of projection onto women. Once a male is aware of the before mentioned female paradigms about guys, he then begins to think that all females think that way about guys and so therefore, women who can truly accept him for who he is -- even on the friendship level, are either a fantasy delusion -- or -- that there are so few of them that the chances of running into one is less than winning the lottery. I used to think I just had to accept this and not give myself any false hopes. Thinking that only assholes got the girl, because even though girls complain about assholes -- that it is truly an asshole that they want. I'm not an asshole, so I pretty much had figured that I should deeply appreciate any dealings with females that I have because they will not last, they will be fueled by drama and they will end in drama. I did not realize that in having this mentality, I was not only betraying myself -- I was also creating my own self-fulfilling prophecy. I'd push away the ladies that were genuine and nice, and only allow in the flakes and destructive chicks.


WITH ALL THAT SAID --  we come to the big question. If the things we think are to blame for all of the evils of the world are merely symptoms of the cause but not the cause itself, then what truly is the cause?


Seeing as everything is connected in the web of life and reality is a cake and not a light switch, a configuration of ingredients, not one single "it is, or it is not" light switch sort of idea -- there is no one single cause. So all I can do is my best to describe the cake.


I'm going to name this cake, CLEAR COMMUNICATION. Or rather -- the complete lack there of it. Lack of clear communication creates misunderstanding which then creates total chaos. How many times have we said to ourselves "if I had only known then what I know now" -- and we realize that if communication had been better, then things wouldn't have been so messy. That misunderstanding is the basis of assumption and when we ASSUME, we make an ASS out of ourselves and others. We've all been there. We've all done it.


SO THEN THE QUESTION BECOMES: okay, so if CLEAR COMMUNICATION is the key to beginning the process of stopping most of the nonsense both inside of our own heads with ourselves, our dealings with others -- as well as the global stage collectively, then -- how are we supposed to accomplish CLEAR COMMUNICATION when humanity seems to be caught in the trap of wanting to be understood, with a refusal to be understanding? This seems way too difficult knowing we live in a world where we're supposed to love people and use things, but instead we use people and love things because we are so terrified of ourselves and others and view success as the enemy and failure as an old friend. Most of us have never said that to ourselves in those words, but if you pay attention to what you feel is familiar, and pay attention as to how anything unfamiliar -- including success -- triggers impulses of feeling completely terrified: then you'll see that I am merely putting words to a process I have observed in both myself and others. Your reaction to this might be "Bullshit, Dave! If I won $100 million dollars, I would love it! Why would I be scared of something so wonderful? Most of my problems are money-based. With all that money, I'd be able to fix them almost over night, and live the rest of my life in a state of happiness and I'll want for nothing! So what Dave, are you smoking?". That one is answered very simply, however if you're having that reaction, it is quite understandable.


You can look this up if you want: most lottery winners end up broke within a decade or less. I think most people know this in America, as it is a pretty common thing. All of the insane stories about lottery winners and how they've gone broke, can sometimes even seem amusing. This is because money only amplifies who you are. It does not turn sinners into saints or angels into demons. Absolute power does not corrupt absolutely, because absolute power doesn't exist anymore than the Tooth Fairy. Any form of success or abundance, monetary or not -- amplifies who we are. This includes any dysfunctions that we're refusing to resolve. So in those situations it can make us feel insecure, unworthy, incapable and unqualified. It feels like massive increasing pressure. I've sabotaged success before under that sort of pressure. I am hard pressed to find any human that hasn't done that at least once. It doesn't take something as extreme as winning the lottery to experience abundance shock and have it start to feel more like a curse than a blessing. The same is true even with approval. The less with think of ourselves while simultaneously the more others think highly of us -- if we do not clear out our inner mental malware, then praise can seem like a lie. Or people trying to be fake with us. Or people being needy and pining for our attention just because they can't find anyone else to go bother. Compliments start to feel like attacks. Praise makes us feel like people are out to exploit us. All of our deepest fears and paranoid delusions become clear as day under the bright light in our face of the polar opposite of what we've been used to. People who do not freak from success, are usually the ones born into it. If you're born into a successful house hold and you grow up with that mindset as being the only norm you've ever known, then you're not going to freak out when good things happen. Most of us have not been in that boat, and most wealthy and successful people were not born into wealth, which is why they almost always end up going broke again. The same can be seen with relationships. If we end up finding someone who truly loves us and they are awesome and amazing, we'll feel as if they're out of our league and we will sabotage the relationship. Our insecurities will put so much tension on the relationship that it will eventually blow up. I've done that before. I've had it done to me before. Friendships also included there, by the way.


So getting back to the question of how to accomplish clear communication, it requires EMPATHY, COMPASSION, THANKFULNESS and APPRECIATION. Not merely to feel it but to live it. Even in the shitty times, not just only the good ones. To deal with our demons, face our shit, walk our talk, empathize with the pain of others and instead of attacking them, having compassion for them because you already know what its like to feel how they feel. Thankfulness and appreciation are two sides of one proverbial coin, and you can not have one without the other. Compassion and empathy are also two sides of one proverbial coin and both equally need each other. Put those two together, and with practice over time, you'll accomplish great things you never thought yourself capable. In that process, it will be like a baby learning to walk, so there will be lots of falling. Part of it will really suck. There will be pain. There will be difficulty. Not going to lie about it. There is no magic wand that can make you get good at this in 2 seconds. However, if you view the shit as fertilizer and thus an opportunity to grow the garden you want, instead of feeling victimized by the perception of burden -- then yes: what sucks, will still suck. However, that "suck" will be the nitrous in your gas tank as you drive your proverbial car down the road of success. Yes, I use a lot of metaphors to make my points. It is usually helpful.


Without EMPATHY, COMPASSION, THANKFULNESS and APPRECIATION as your driving force, then no systems of SCIENCE, SPIRITUALITY, MONEY, GOVERNMENT, INFORMATION, SEXUALITY -- be they used wisely or not -- will change the world for the better. Anything without EMPATHY, COMPASSION, THANKFULNESS and APPRECIATION as your driving force, is fucked. Success will be temporary then here comes the crash and burn. The road to hell paved with all the good intentions and logical sounding ideologies. Every religion has this at its core, but when the followers of that religion don't walk that talk -- it then becomes a modern day pharisee corrupted distortion, opposite of the original intentions. That is what we have today.


The way the world continues to intensify, all of this is up in our faces right now. You will continue to see more and more people with similar sentiments to mine, however differently they might otherwise be phrased -- they will have the same commonalities. People sick of bullshit, at their wits end, desperation breeds genius and then, eureka! COMPASSION! DING DING DING DING!!! So look for that, you'll be seeing it from people, because so many people are reaching these "fuck it, fuck all" points which cracks open their minds to ideas they used to be resistant to. Then the COMPASSION FACTOR hits them and they're like "oh, well shit! thats a thing? yeah, seems so! and it seems to work! lets let this shit out into this fucked up world
and heal this bitch!".


The wheat and chaff are being separated like a tire filling to the bursting point. It is simply not possible to continue doing business as usual, both globally and individually, as well as the thoughts in our own heads. The Earth can no longer sustain our destructive Collective Stockholm Syndrome bullshit and Dysfunctional Collective Suicide. Humanity can no longer sustain it. Individuals are stressed to their breaking points. To quote the Venus Project: this shit has got to go. The good and bad news in equal measure is, that it is going, and by default. Whether or not that departure and re-balancing of this planet and our species is smooth or highly destructive, is up to us both individually and collectively. Wow, I'm saying individually and collectively a lot in this one. Ell Oh Ell. Anyways, so -- yes! A better world is on its way, but whether that train pulls up in front of us, or drives straight up our ass in many painful ways -- is entirely up to us.


Bill Hicks said its a choice between fear and love. I say its deciding whats more important to you: feeling justified, or having compassion.


If feeling justified is more important to you, then your life isn't going to get any easier -- ever. Until or unless you have a change of mind, of course. If compassion is more important to you -- the shifts will be as unpleasant as a baby learning to walk, but -- things will begin to get easier once the walking really truly starts.


To accomplish this, I'm going to cite the words of Jeff Foster. I have no idea who he is, but I like what he said.

"Today, try this:

If you feel sad or afraid, or feel a tension in your body, just for a moment stop trying to “let go.” Forget about “raising your vibration” too! Instead, simply be with the discomfort. Get curious about it. Soften around it. Breathe into it. Give it space, room, some time. Forget about understanding, “releasing,” or “fixing” it today and just allow it to be here for as long as it needs to be here. Let it stay if it wants to stay. Let it go if it wants to go! Let it come back if it wants to come back. Treat it like a welcome guest in the vast Rest Home of your being, a beloved child that truly belongs."

Short version: don't give yourself shit. you're human. you're not going to be happy all-the-fucking-time. its not possible. being human is not a crime!

Have this compassion for yourself first, and this ride will go smoother.

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